Hi friends! My name is Bethany, I’m a lifestyle blogger based in Phoenix and I’m so excited to get to share with you guys.
Today we’re going to talk about something we all have a love/hate relationship with...social media. Ah, social media, you give such highs and lows. You can be crazy draining at times, and yet so rewarding at others.
To be honest, spending time on social media can just feel exhausting. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve opened up Instagram and have found myself down a rabbit hole, stalking a travel blogger and comparing their life (highlight reel) to my own. We’ve all been there. When we get caught up playing the comparison game, social media can leave us feeling inadequate, but it doesn’t have to be that way.
Spending time on social platforms does not have to be negative or meaningless. There’s a lot of light, positive interactions and inspiration from all around the world to be found. We just need take control of our own social media space and be intentional about what we’re putting out there and how our brains are taking it all in.
Kindness matters. We live in a world where each of us are our own toughest critics, we don’t need anyone else’s negative thoughts or opinions weighing us down. But we do need constant human love and support, so let’s build each other up!
Did you know that practicing acts of kindness doesn’t just benefit the person on the receiving end? It’s benefiting you too by activating the reward centers in your brain! Researchers actually recommend practicing kindness as one of the best ways to boost YOUR OWN happiness. This sounds cheesy but it’s true: when you’re kind, literally everyone wins.
2. Be intentional about sharing your kind words. “If you see something beautiful in someone, speak it.” -Ruthie Lindsey. The most unique thing about social media is that we have the opportunity to reach so many different people in such a short amount of time. We have the ability to spread positive thoughts and ideas like wildfire. This power that we have is HUGE and we might as well take advantage of it.
How about instead of the old “if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all” we make it “if you have nothing nice to say, think harder because something nice will come to you and then you should definitely say it because it will make everyone feel good”. Make it a point to insert love wherever possible. These kind words really do make a difference. We don’t always know the full story of what someone is going through so you never know when your simple kind words could change everything for them.
3. Decide your number. This will be your daily reminder and encouragement to put the previous steps into action. Make it a goal for yourself to say an X number of positive things on social media each day. Maybe make it a point to leave at least 5 kind comments and send 5 sweet DMs whenever you find yourself scrolling through Instagram.
It’s easy to let time go by without spreading positivity if you’re not being intentional. Deciding your number will help keep you on track for cultivating this positive space. Don’t forget that you benefit from being kind as well so why not help yourself (and others) have a better day!
4. Pour out your cup and let others fill it up. This means go ahead and give your kindness freely and accept and trust in the loving words that others give to you.
The more you pour out, the more others will want to fill you up! It’s important to practice accepting compliments from others and giving compliments to yourself. Being good to yourself is essential as it can offer so much freedom in allowing you to be more genuine and generous to others. The more you let yourself and others fill you up, the more you will have to pour out to keep the cycle going.
5. Remember that social media is a highlight reel. Most of the time when people choose to share moments of their life on social media, they are only the most beautiful parts of their life. Know that there is so much more going on behind the scenes than most posts let on. Practice being mindful and not comparing your entire story to someone else’s highlight reel. When you go onto social media with the right mindset you are so much more able to serve yourself and others.
If you find that a specific person’s posts always seem to negatively affect your mood, know that it’s okay to take action. If you need to unfollow someone or mute someone’s posts for a little while, that’s okay. Your social media space should feel safe just as any other space should.
6. Limit your time on social media. Just as with all healthy relationships, there should be boundaries. While social media offers so many unique and advantageous ways to spread positivity, it’s important to be mindful of how much time we invest being plugged in. Nothing beats personal human connection and all of these steps can be put to use here as well.
Practicing these steps in both social media and the real world, has added a lot of my light to my life. I work to be mindful of these things each day. Of course, there are days where I do better than others. On the days where I’m being the most intentional, my mood is much better, I feel a greater connection and trust for humanity and it just feels like we’re all rooting for each other.
I know there’s a lot of human kindness to be seen from all over the world and putting these steps into practice will help show this! I am rooting for you friends! You are so important, so loved and so valued.
"Be kinder to yourself. And then let your kindness flood the world". -Pema Chodron